Coping with rejection when dating online

When looking for love on a dating site, rejections are inevitable. While the advantage of online dating is that you can interact with a vast number of women, the downside is that you may end up attracting only a fraction of them. The dating math is simple and ruthless: the more girls you contact, the more rejections you get.

And there is nothing you can do about that, since widening your dating pool also increases the chances you’ll meet your destiny online. That’s why you need to be able to cope with “No” (or more commonly, lack of responses to your messages) in order to be able to fulfill your hopes of finding your soulmate online. Without that persistence, you’ll be allowing destiny to slip through your fingers.

So, how to react when the girl you’ve chosen as “The One” doesn’t feel the same way about you?

Don’t take it too hard. You should understand that it’s not about you, it’s about this woman and her current situation with you (and often, or past situations with others). If you have exchanged only a few messages on a dating site, she definitely didn’t get to know you well enough to form a deep opinion about what kind of a man you are. Or maybe she is looking for someone else. Or maybe she thought she knew what she was looking for, but changed her mind. The key thing is to not take it personally and move on.

Chat with other women. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. If you are chatting with several girls and one of them has started ghosting you or even disappeared from your radar, you will still have options. It’s easier for you to deal with one loss if you’re still receiving attention from other stunning women, isn't it?

Remain optimistic. No matter what happens on a dating site, try to stay positive. Don’t let one rejection ruin your fun and keep you from reaching your dating goals. Besides, easy-going and optimistic people are more attractive. And if you don't give up, there will always be another girl and another potential for romance and true love.

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